Prayers and Unexpressed Gratitude

Ever felt sad or guilty for not conveying your gratitude to someone? 

It has happened to me quite a few times. Like I have missed conveying my heartfelt thanks to the person who helped me at the right moment. 

Whenever I see the following quote I just drown in the pool of guilt. 

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”

William Arthur Ward

I initially thought I can write this during Thanksgiving or Maatu Pongal but then thought it’s already delayed. So plunged to write about this soon with no further delay. 

There are quite a few incidents in this list.

To begin with I would like to quote my recent encounter. This one is actually 10 months old. This happened during my labour. 

I did not write much about my labour or pregnancy but I always wanted to share the life lessons that I learnt. But either I had no mood or I was in search of words to describe. 

I was in the hospital for 3 days before delivery. I had contractions but they weren’t so intensive so as to deliver the baby. I was induced because of low water level but the pain was moderate and consistent throughout. On the 4th day, I was again induced through drips. Pain was intense! My husband and amma were there for my support. But when they needed a break there was a nurse beside me who was holding my hands and was smiling and encouraging me throughout. Throughout labour Doctors monitor the child’s heart beat. The pain was intense but if I moved my legs I felt relaxed. But whenever I moved, the baby’s heart beat dipped. That was when that nurse gave her hand for me to hold. She was gently patting my hands throughout. After her duty she wished me good luck and left. 

I was in pain and was then taken by the series of events. In my subsequent visits I didn’t meet her. I wasn’t in a position to make a note of her name as well. 

One can say it’s her duty to take care of patients. But doing things from the heart is a rare trait. Though one gets paid it doesn’t have to be from the heart. 

I really wish I met her in my later visit to the hospital and conveyed her my thanks. Better late than never. Thank you so much! I believe that the universe carries my gratitude message to her and protects her. She always has a special place in my daily prayers. 

I seriously wish not to miss the chance to thank someone. 

How penting up negative emotions will have its own side effects. Similarly, penting up positive emotions stops blessings coming your way. To have a better mood, better lifestyle, more peace, go ahead and convey your gratitude. Especially those unuttered gratitude. They will pave the way for more blessings. 

A 5-1 Kolam decorated with lamps to offer prayers

Sometimes people pray to offer something to god to succeed in tasks. Eventually, people may also forget. They might face some hurdles in subsequent tasks and gets reminded about the prayer and offer it to god. 

Here, it doesn’t mean that God expects gifts or offers to shower his abundant blessings. It is to make us understand the power of giving and being grateful. 

So, If you wish to convey your thanks to someone and he or she is in your radar do not miss the chance. You may not get one more chance. 

Be open. Say THANKS and attract blessings your way. 

Regards,

Rukmini

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#NoMoreMeToo – Part 3 – The Upbringing

“Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil.” –Walt Disney

The third post on #NoMoreMeToo. This is all about upbringing of children. One of the difficult and exhaustive one is parenting! Running behind the child for feeding, playing is exhaustive and as you see the child smiling at you, it is all worth it! The difference between the current and the yester generation is that, the yester generation grew up. With today’s technological developments, the current generation has to be brought up!

Years back, screen was an unknown element. Now it it is almost the way of life. There are new parenting glichtes and it all requires new techniques to handle the same.

What #MeToo or #NoMoreMeToo has with Upbringing?

Parents play a pivotal role in setting a good, safe environment for the children. So, it is the duty of every parent to have an eye on the child’s growth and curiosity.

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At your home you may streamline, have a better routine, give an open space, cut the screen time or have no screen time at all for your child but other children may have different kind of parenting. So, one can control only what is in one’s control! Hence, making children understand on digital spaces, routine and private parts in essential. And to be honest the last one can feel awkward. Here, the post concentrates on the sexual talk.

Though awkward, it can happen through regular communication with children. Slowly can tell about what is good in touch, in seeing, in hearing. Because abuse can be of any form. Child Psychology says that even before they go to school, children would start to explore their bodies.

Many people speak about Adult-Child abuse but along with that child – child curiosity should also be addressed. No touching other than parents, grandparents should be the norm. Even if that is uncomfortable, there should be an open space to voice the same. Most young children will be curious about their bodies and also the bodies of children of opposite sex.

Similarly, When some other children seem to intrude in your children’s personal space, it is a must to speak with your child in an assuring way because only then the child would be open for communication in the coming years! Else the child would become secretive which could be dangerous for their growth, adding more trouble for us, the parents!

Even after all the precautions, when your child is subjected to threat or abuse, being calm and helping them divert their mindset will help them heal. Loving them unconditionally will help them lead a happy life. Till they understand that they will have a chance to explore sex with love, as a part of life, we as parents should be their fall backs. We have to build trust, a rock solid foundation. The child should believe that ‘Whatever happens when I tell my parents they will hear with calm mind’. Such a blind trust can make parenting easier! And the bond will be the strongest!

Treat children like plants! Allow them to blossom and grow. Take care and water them love and set the environment right. Because when a plant doesn’t grow, the environment should be fixed. It is not the plant’s fault after all! Positive parenting in communication, attitude, showing love is the key for winning our children’s hearts! Winning heart is a great deed. Winning children’s heart is an accomplishment to be cherished and a rare treasure!

Happy Parenting!

With Love,
Rukmini P Kirthivasan