Prayers and Unexpressed Gratitude

Ever felt sad or guilty for not conveying your gratitude to someone? 

It has happened to me quite a few times. Like I have missed conveying my heartfelt thanks to the person who helped me at the right moment. 

Whenever I see the following quote I just drown in the pool of guilt. 

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”

William Arthur Ward

I initially thought I can write this during Thanksgiving or Maatu Pongal but then thought it’s already delayed. So plunged to write about this soon with no further delay. 

There are quite a few incidents in this list.

To begin with I would like to quote my recent encounter. This one is actually 10 months old. This happened during my labour. 

I did not write much about my labour or pregnancy but I always wanted to share the life lessons that I learnt. But either I had no mood or I was in search of words to describe. 

I was in the hospital for 3 days before delivery. I had contractions but they weren’t so intensive so as to deliver the baby. I was induced because of low water level but the pain was moderate and consistent throughout. On the 4th day, I was again induced through drips. Pain was intense! My husband and amma were there for my support. But when they needed a break there was a nurse beside me who was holding my hands and was smiling and encouraging me throughout. Throughout labour Doctors monitor the child’s heart beat. The pain was intense but if I moved my legs I felt relaxed. But whenever I moved, the baby’s heart beat dipped. That was when that nurse gave her hand for me to hold. She was gently patting my hands throughout. After her duty she wished me good luck and left. 

I was in pain and was then taken by the series of events. In my subsequent visits I didn’t meet her. I wasn’t in a position to make a note of her name as well. 

One can say it’s her duty to take care of patients. But doing things from the heart is a rare trait. Though one gets paid it doesn’t have to be from the heart. 

I really wish I met her in my later visit to the hospital and conveyed her my thanks. Better late than never. Thank you so much! I believe that the universe carries my gratitude message to her and protects her. She always has a special place in my daily prayers. 

I seriously wish not to miss the chance to thank someone. 

How penting up negative emotions will have its own side effects. Similarly, penting up positive emotions stops blessings coming your way. To have a better mood, better lifestyle, more peace, go ahead and convey your gratitude. Especially those unuttered gratitude. They will pave the way for more blessings. 

A 5-1 Kolam decorated with lamps to offer prayers

Sometimes people pray to offer something to god to succeed in tasks. Eventually, people may also forget. They might face some hurdles in subsequent tasks and gets reminded about the prayer and offer it to god. 

Here, it doesn’t mean that God expects gifts or offers to shower his abundant blessings. It is to make us understand the power of giving and being grateful. 

So, If you wish to convey your thanks to someone and he or she is in your radar do not miss the chance. You may not get one more chance. 

Be open. Say THANKS and attract blessings your way. 

Regards,

Rukmini

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Image from Brainy Quote 

International Labour Day 2020

This labour day, it’s a special tribute for all the doctors, sanitary workers, in general for all the front line warriors! This Conora is teaching various lessons especially in terms of discipline of cleanliness!

Take ‘Self-Hygiene’, it sounds fancy and cool. Thanks to phonetics. But it takes a huge amount of repetitive tasks to achieve the discipline. Ask yourself. How many of you felt bored or irritated when someone instructed to wash hands when you went to nearby shop to buy Essentials and came back? How many of you felt anger surging when someone asked you to close your mouth and cough? You would have argued at least once trying to prove that you do not have corona and why should one close mouth unnecessarily? How many felt lazy to wash hands after rubbing eyes? How many of you felt difficult wearing hand kerchief while stepping out to buy essentials?

It all seem simple. But could have felt Boring, irritating, lazy at least at one point. See the bigger picture behind it’s all for our safety still we find it difficult and want to lament about these steps which would save lives.

Think of the doctors, nurses, lab workers! Wearing PPE in scorching May. Chennai is humid and even imagining Nylon over skin one can feel the heat and itch. PPE over body is beyond imagination! In that dress, they can’t drink water! Again, it’s summer. Normally, doctors recommend to drink sufficient water to keep dehydration at bay. But now they are prone to corona, dehydration and stress of increasing corona cases! Above all their freedom of movement is restricted than the normal population. Self quarantine after working in Corona ward.

Next the sanitary workers. Even in normal days they deal with the waste of other people. Many people find it difficult at their own home to segregate the dry and wet waste; bio degradable and the non bio degradable wastes which is categorically their waste! Few people detest the work for the fact. But sometimes could see these people happily doing the cleaning process!

Then, the Police Department. They are prone to corona, stress, irritation of people who come out unnecessarily and often. Think about the direct sun that they are exposed to! Again the dehydration, sun stroke and what not!

From Go Daddy stock photos

Despite lock down, farmers and vendors toil to bring food for all, risking their lives to fill people’s stomach! If there is food on your table do not forget to thank a farmer and all who helped to bring it to you, just when you are hungry!

I find this International Labour Day more emotional! I hope many people also feel the same!

Whenever you go to kitchen take a glass of water, casually and drink to quench your thirst, remember how it would be for the fellow human being, being out there as a front line warrior controlling his thirst! As you happily pee, remember their urge to control the natural call! It’s a sacrifice beyond one could imagine! The only prayer that one could pray for all these first line, second line warriors is to wash hands, be socially distant and stay home! As we do these repetitively without succumbing to laziness, remember that we are actually helping, allowing the front line warriors to have a cup of water in the middle of work soon! And that could be the greatest thing you could do to your fellow dweller on this planet!

Wash hands! Stay save! Let the front line warriors drink water in their white coat soon!

Lets salutes all Corona Warriors on International Labour Day!

With Love,
Rukmini P Kirthivasan